The only thing we are ever dealing with is a thought and a thought can be changed!
I cannot put into words how much these have changed my life. Every thought we have is creating our future. I have spent most of my life listening and reacting to my subconscious reel ( thoughts that continuously run in your mind without you really noticing them, thoughts that have been established from our past experiences and the implicit language we learnt as children) But I now know there is a better way. It’s not easy at first but after a while it does become like second nature to catch those destructive thoughts, ask yourself how true you believe them to be and re write the script with a positive affirmation.
A good one to start with is:
‘I completely love and approve of myself, exactly as i am’
Just saying this will bring up everything buried in your consciousness that is in opposition to this. Every time something pops up ‘this is stupid’ ‘how can i approve of myself when I’m fat’ whatever it is, gently say to these thoughts ‘I let you go; I completely love and accept myself, exactly as i am’ Just keep on repeating it until you believe it.
Sometimes we put on a facade, needing people to love and approve of us, but it is not the true us and people can take advantage because they feel our need and can see through our lies. You cannot keep this up forever and be truly happy because you are constantly re confirming to yourself that you are not good enough to show people who you really are.
‘I would rather be loathed for who I am, than loved for who I’m not’
Most inner turmoil comes from a belief that we are not good enough and this normally stems from our childhood. This is when we learn what to think about ourselves and our world. If you lived with people who were very unhappy, frightened, guilty, angry, then you learned a lot of negative things about yourself and about your world. Thoughts like ‘it’s always my fault’ and ‘if i get angry i am a bad person’ create a frustrating life.
That been said, we can’t change our past and playing the blame game is probably the most detrimental thing you can do. Resentment, criticism, guilt and fear cause more problems in our bodies and lives than anything else. These feelings come from blaming others and not taking charge of our lives. Our parents parented us with what they were parented with. How could we expect them to teach us how to love and accept ourselves if this was not a reality in their lives. You can only teach what you know.
To release the past we must be willing to forgive everyone, ourselves included. We might not know how to, we might not even want to, but having the willingness to say the words out loud can start the healing process.
‘I forgive you for not being the way I wanted you to be, I forgive you and I set you free’
Affirmations have made me realise a lot about myself. I have a long time partner and we had a few really rough years. We both had a problem expressing ourselves and most of our communication was done with bitchy little comments (14 years worth!) I got to the point where i was just mad at him all the time for everything and i wasn’t really sure why.
I was already saying ‘i completely love and accept myself, exactly as i am’ but then i read something that said to treat your partner like they are the best partner in the world for 90 days. Take a real interest in what they say, greet them with a smile and truly appreciate everything they do for you. If at the end of the 90 days things are still bad, you can leave with a clear conscience. I thought i would also add him into my affirmations
‘I completely love and accept my partner and he completely love and accepts me’
Well that was it, i started sobbing. I realised that i had never accepted him for who he was, i’d always tried to micro manage situations where i thought he might ‘cause a scene’ or embarrass me. I also realised that i resented him for me having to do this. I had chosen to do this and i could chose not to as well. All my friends are out spoken in some way, and i love them for it. I realised that i love him for it as well. I could have saved my self so much heartache by just realising that other peoples thoughts and feelings are not my responsibility. Everybody should be allowed to be themselves.
I got all of that from just saying one affirmation and I am so grateful.
A few Affirmations to get you started
For people who need to let go of something from their past
‘I am willing to let go. I release. I let go. I release all tension. I release all fear. I release all anger. I release all guilt. I release all sadness. I let go of all old limitations. I let go and i am at peace. I am at peace with myself. I am at peace with the process of life. I am safe.’
For people with food intolerances and who can sometimes find life overwhelming
‘I digest my food and life with ease’
‘I trust the process of life. I am safe’
For people who feel like they aren’t good enough
‘I deserve the best and i accept it now’
‘I deserve to succeed’
‘I give myself permission to be all that I can be, and I deserve the very best in life. I love and appreciate myself and others.’
For people struggling with all they have to do
‘I am doing the best i can’
‘I enjoy and trust the process of life’
‘All the answers I seek lie within’
For people suffering with anxiety
‘I love and approve of myself and i trust the process of life. I am safe’
For people with apathy or lack of enthusiasm
‘It is safe to feel. I open myself to life. I am willing to experience life’
For people who have a tendency to over eat
‘I am safe. It is safe to feel. My feelings are normal and acceptable’
For people suffering with constant fatigue
‘I am enthusiastic about life and filled with energy and enthusiasm’
For people with Hyperactivity
‘I am safe. All pressure dissolves. I AM GOOD ENOUGH’
Think of your own, write them down and repeat, repeat, repeat.
Most of the information on this page I got from a book that really did change my life!Louise Hay ‘You can heal your life.’ To me, this is one of those books that everyone should read. Truly inspirational.